There are enough women I have spoken to out there– (and men too) who wish they could find someone NICE ( read as educated, interesting, fun, sense of humor, wikes to do stuff) to connect with.
I know one person who connected with someone who claimed to have “no baggage” — yet his baggage could have filled the Orient Express and they eventually split up and he is repeating the same pattern over and over and not learning anything (though the guy is a counselor– I could say something else here but I won’t.
the “old” American guys (please what a terrible term. try mature, older.) do know what’s out there and they are shooting for the under 40 crowd- with no children or other baggage.

If you want maturity, appreciation of life and understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work, then excuse me– it does take someone who has lived it– not just watched it on tv.

I don’t think women are looking for someone young and hot- they are looking for someone who can emotionally bond with another person- who understands what it means to “be there” for someone and go the distance.
I am not saying there aren’t younger men out there who can’t do that. (hell, my therapist snagged someone younger and he’s a winner).

But I don’t consider that these women are looking for “perfection” when what they want is an emotional connection and a reasonable pursuit of life and happiness.

“My advice is this: Settle! That’s right. Don’t worry about passion or intense connection. Don’t nix a guy based on his annoying habit of yelling “Bravo!” in movie theaters. Overlook his halitosis or abysmal sense of aesthetics. Because if you want to have the infrastructure in place to have a family, settling is the way to go. Based on my observations, in fact, settling will probably make you happier in the long run, since many of those who marry with great expectations become more disillusioned with each passing year. (It’s hard to maintain that level of zing when the conversation morphs into discussions about who’s changing the diapers or balancing the checkbook.)”

You know, the first thing I think of when I read this is, “Uh, where are they going to find the guys who are going to settle?” I mean, it sounds like these women are hoping to “settle” with a man who is more or less their equal, instead of continuing to wait for some silly 14 year-old’s fantasy of what love is. Why would a these men who are more or less as educated, cultured, and aged as they chose to settle with them when they can just say, “hm… no, I think I will choose a woman with issues, flaws, and baggage - 10 years younger.” ?

Settling for a guy really just means being satisfied with young and hot rather than “perfect in every conceivable way.”

Old American women are so lucky that there are so many American guys who apparently are unaware of the options they’ve got…

Or maybe they are settling for men in their 50’s and 60’s where 40 is a rather nice level of hotness without the social akwardness of everyone assuming you are out with your grandaughter…

Just how you respond is what is interesting.. because that will generate more questions.
But then — I think you realize that– or not?
*giggle*

and you?