http://chrisabraham.com/2006/11/19/is-he-a-good-wife/ Because the Medium is the Message Wed, 09 May 2012 09:02:24 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://chrisabraham.com/2006/11/19/is-he-a-good-wife/#comment-2125 Sporty Spice Sun, 26 Nov 2006 10:10:56 +0000 http://chrisabraham.com/?p=3284#comment-2125 I wouldn't go so far as to emasculate the husband in this fashion, but to say that women expect the spouse (or potential spouse) to recognize a more evolved role in the relationship then yes, I would concur. Potential mates are now evaluated on a spectrum that never existed twenty years ago - to include: his willingness to help with the division of labor and his ability to understand the pressing need for him to be an active participant in the promotion, upkeep and maintenance of the relationship, house, and family. No longer can men assume the champion title of "breadwinner" and rest on their laurels. Women expect so much more from men these days (b/c they simply haven't the time or inclination anymore to be the June Cleavers) and have long dismissed the notion that they alone shall kill themselves trying to be the lover, wife, AND mother to their husband. Husband's are expected to be more generous with their time, effort and energy. It simply is what it is. And if that means men must demonstrate that they are sensitive to this sort of demand, then men, heed your warning now and start adding this to your "relationship CV" - it seems to be a job requirement these days. At least, I know my girlfriends and I look for it. I wouldn’t go so far as to emasculate the husband in this fashion, but to say that women expect the spouse (or potential spouse) to recognize a more evolved role in the relationship then yes, I would concur. Potential mates are now evaluated on a spectrum that never existed twenty years ago – to include: his willingness to help with the division of labor and his ability to understand the pressing need for him to be an active participant in the promotion, upkeep and maintenance of the relationship, house, and family. No longer can men assume the champion title of “breadwinner” and rest on their laurels. Women expect so much more from men these days (b/c they simply haven’t the time or inclination anymore to be the June Cleavers) and have long dismissed the notion that they alone shall kill themselves trying to be the lover, wife, AND mother to their husband. Husband’s are expected to be more generous with their time, effort and energy. It simply is what it is. And if that means men must demonstrate that they are sensitive to this sort of demand, then men, heed your warning now and start adding this to your “relationship CV” – it seems to be a job requirement these days. At least, I know my girlfriends and I look for it.

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