Upon reading Dating is like a job search, and a job search is like dating I almost had a seizure.
I refuse to call back anyone who treats a date like either a job search or a job interview. It is the one deal-breaker for me and DC women are notorious for it. Simply appalling. I don’t think DC men are are any better.
It all stems from bad socialization. We Washingtonians have spent more time and energy on how to seduce a job than how to seduce each other.
What serves in the working world does not serve in the dating world. Ask Maureen Dowd
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Oy vey! I simply found the parallels fascinating.
‘Tis true.
Which is why I choose to date professional bartenders.
That’s why it’s best to freelance. No long-term commitment; just short term gratification — a mutually beneficial, short-term arrangement.
I admit though, I’ve been having a hard term finding “work” lately, and this might explain why: Everyone in this town is on a real career path. They’re not just looking for a “job,” they’re looking for a retirement package.
David – yep. DC people are focused on marriage as the end goal. Not love, but marriage.
They would probably get the latter (retirement package) if they would spend more time enjoying the former (having fun with dating and getting fired a few times), David.
I just talked with some people in my office about this. The other parallel that can be made is that everyone, whether a prospective employee/er, or a perspective date, wants to feel “chosen” by the other one.
What DC folks are looking for is high-pay, prestige, pedigree, and career. None of these requirements have anything to do with job happiness, passion, or job satisfaction.
Washington, DC, singles treat dating the same way they treat their career; unfortunately, while they’re overqualified in the career department, they’re underqualified in the dating department.
And to get the McKinsey-class men and women in Washington, you have to be highly competitive — world class — and being smart and successful and educated and even pretty isn’t going to cut it if you’re trying to land that ultimate catch who’s perks will include the home on Foxhall Road, the membership at the Chevy Chase Club, au pairs and nannies, the spots in Georgetown Day, and the legacy at Yale.
The good news, Washington, DC, ladies, is that you can now achieve all of these things on your own.
Perhaps Chris will share some of his tips for successful dating as an alternative to treating it like a job search?
I guess I’m the anomaly here. What I want? Someone who makes me think. Someone not afraid to laugh at himself and laugh at me.
Jobs end, houses burn down, money runs out. And I’m not much of a tennis player, anyway.
I want somebody to share
Share the rest of my life
Share my innermost thoughts
Know my intimate details
Someone wholl stand by my side
And give me support
And in return
Shell get my support
She will listen to me
When I want to speak
About the world we live in
And life in general
Though my views may be wrong
They may even be perverted
Shell hear me out
And wont easily be converted
To my way of thinking
In fact shell often disagree
But at the end of it all
She will understand me
Aaaahhhhh….
I want somebody who cares
For me passionately
With every thought and
With every breath
Someone wholl help me see things
In a different light
All the things I detest
I will almost like
I dont want to be tied
To anyones strings
Im carefully trying to steer clear of
Those things
But when Im asleep
I want somebody
Who will put their arms around me
And kiss me tenderly
Though things like this
Make me sick
In a case like this
Ill get away with it
Aaaahhhhh….
(was that too snarky!?)
Aw, Chris. You’re really a softie underneath it all!
Song lyrics? What, are you one of the LiveJournal emokiddies now?
Will it be slashfic next?
(Quoting alternative scene prom music lyrics by Depeche Mode is supposed to be seen as amazingly snarky)
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