This morning, in the office, I overheard a conversation about real estate that went like this, “I am tired of my condo but I can’t afford anthing else until I find a sugar daddy.”
It was the third time in the last 24-hours that I have heard this from Washington, DC, women in their mid-thirties. And the third time about real estate, too.
But there are other contexts I have heard this said, including “I will get married when I find myself a sugar daddy who will allow me to quit my job and be a mom,” “I just want myself a sugar daddy who can take me on exotic trips,” “I am waiting for a sudar daddy who can afford to keep me in the lifestyle to which I have become accustomed.”
That’s pretty tough and pretty intimidating. What’s worse, these girls mean it, which is why these beautiful women who would never consider being with anyone but a cute, single, available man have now ever-expanding pools. They’re even dating their dads, so-to-speak.
But it is one of the primary reasons why we 30-something men in Washington, DC, refuse to date our peers. Because our peers refuse to date us.
Primarily, we can’t — we’re generally not good enough for them. They want wealthy men who can take care of them, and they’re willing to date and marry their fathers and rich uncles in order to do it. They’re unwilling past their 20s to invest in a man’s future, they want it now and in someone who has already proven his mettle.
So, the same woman who at 25 would really not date anyone older than 30 is now 35 and will date just about anyone as long as he can afford her: 35-55, divorced, separated, widowed, with kids and an ex-wife.
Like I mentioned before, “married is the new separated, separated is the new divorced, and divorced is the new single.”
I asked a 35-year-old woman of great beauty and success about this and I was told, “Chris, a 35-year-old man, are at the very young edge of my dating pool. Most men in the pool are above forty, have been married, have kids, and don’t know if they want to have any more.”
But I don’t believe it hook, line, and sinker. Realistically, most men in their 40s are at their peak earning potential. And men in their 50s who have a similar socio-economic profile as ours are arrived and wealthy and if divorced (or a cheater) really excited about those 35-year-old spring chickens.
Well, I want my 30-something women back! Sadly, I am going to give up the ghost and realize that we 30-something Washingtonian men are just not yet good enough for you as partners, husbands, fathers, and, alas, sugar daddies.
Sigh.
